Curated Lists
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5 Things I Did to Build a Friend Group in a New State (As an Introvert)
Most people aren’t avoiding connection. They’re waiting for permission to reach for it.
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Cowboy Boots Worth Wearing Everywhere
Because sometimes you want something that lasts — softens over time, and hugs the side of your foot like a faithful dog. For days when sneakers feel wrong and sandals won’t cut it. Boots that fit into real life. Boots you don’t have to plan around. • Lane Boots (LaneBoots.com) Photo: my blush Lane boots
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A Short List for Holding Yourself When You Feel Unsteady
Sometimes the hardest part isn’t the feeling — it’s not knowing where to put it. (For moments when your nervous system wants reassurance — and you choose to offer it to yourself.) 1. Orient to the present moment. Quietly notice: • 3 things you can see • 2 things you can physically feel • 1
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When the world feels heavy
This isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about getting through today with your nervous system intact. Here’s what to do — concretely. Start the day smaller than you think you should. Don’t ask what the whole day needs. Ask what the first hour needs. Drink something warm. Sit down while you drink it. Let that be
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Fun Things to Do With Your Girlfriends
(including a few slightly out-of-the-ordinary ones) Not “girls’ night” energy. More like shared life, low pressure. Pick one and make a loose plan. Low stakes. High memories. Save what works. Skip what doesn’t.
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Things that Soften the Day
A short list of small helps • Opening a window, even when it’s cold • Drinking something warm slowly • Noticing a full breath — an inhale and an exhale • Letting a feeling pass without narrating it • Cleaning one small surface • Standing in sunlight like it’s medicine • Choosing quiet over being
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Before We Knew Twinkies Were Bad for Us
There was a time when food didn’t have labels, parenting advice came mostly from vibes, and no one was worried about what anything meant. It was the 80s. We didn’t know better. We were fine with that. 1. Snacks were considered food Twinkies. Ding Dongs. HoHos. Those orange peanut butter crackers that tasted like salt and
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Why My Bed Feels Extra Cozy on Weekdays
And how I still get up and out to work 1. The bed knows it’s not allowed Weekend bed is optional. Weekday bed is forbidden. That alone makes it warmer, softer, and emotionally supportive. The bed is suddenly on your side. 2. My brain is doing negotiations before I’m awake On weekdays, my brain starts
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How to Relish Your Stormy Dark-Soul Days
Not every day wants fixing. Some days just want acknowledgment and better lighting. Here are a few ways to let stormy days be what they are — without turning them into a problem. 1. Lean into low light Bright lights feel aggressive on days like this. Lamps. Shadows. Overcast windows doing their thing. Stormy days